Do NOT Try to Be More Confident (Do This Instead)

About this video

McGoff argues that confidence is not a choice but a result of giving yourself reasons to trust in your abilities. He presents five practical areas where men can build genuine confidence: dressing well, grooming, learning to fight, public speaking, and reading, emphasizing that these tangible improvements lead to real confidence rather than simply willing yourself to feel confident.

Key takeaways

• McGoff argues confidence is a result of trusting your abilities, not a mindset you can simply choose to adopt
• McGoff recommends dressing well as the most controllable way to build confidence, and notes this requires particular effort for shorter men who may need tailoring and custom pieces
• McGoff recommends learning martial arts like Brazilian jiu-jitsu as a confidence builder, particularly for shorter men since grappling relies on leverage rather than height
• McGoff suggests practicing public speaking through organizations like Toastmasters to overcome fear and build competence
• McGoff advocates reading and continuous learning as a way to expand your knowledge and skillset independent of physical attributes

Episode details: published March 3, 2016 · 34K views · 7:49 long. Summary written by Self Growth Videos from the episode itself. The style advice summarized here is Brock McGoff’s own teaching and opinion, presented for education; product recommendations are his, not ours. Summaries are written by Self Growth Videos from each video itself.

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