If I had LOW CONFIDENCE, I'd do this ASAP

About this video

The creator argues confidence is an inside job: tactics fail in the moment because most people run a ‘doubt loop,’ basing self-worth from the outside in — comparing to others, feeling insecure, doubting themselves and hiding. The ‘confidence loop’ runs inside out through three pillars: know yourself, trust yourself, and accept yourself. On trust, he recounts hosting a health and wellness podcast while secretly addicted to chewing tobacco; the mismatch between his public and private self undermined him. You lose trust in yourself by breaking commitments to yourself, just as you would with an unreliable friend, and rebuild it by keeping small, concrete commitments — writing daily, posting weekly — citing a friend whose biggest gain from the 75 Hard challenge was proving he could keep his word to himself. On knowing yourself, he recommends journaling, including drawing a timeline of your life and marking key events each decade to surface your core stories. On acceptance, he reframes fear as negative visualization — replaying worst cases that rarely happen — and recommends Tim Ferriss-style fear-setting: imagine the worst case, then find a livable plan B, as he did when launching his business. Real confidence is accepting things can go wrong and knowing you’ll still be okay.

Key takeaways

• Confidence works inside-out: know, trust and accept yourself rather than trying to appear confident to feel confident.
• A public/private mismatch — living against your own values in secret — quietly destroys self-trust and confidence.
• Rebuild trust in yourself by keeping small, specific commitments to yourself, the way you’d judge a friend’s reliability.
• Use journaling, including a life timeline of key events by decade, to learn your own core stories and identity.
• Use fear-setting: visualize the worst case, make a livable plan B for it, and you’ll take bigger risks with more confidence.

Episode details: published September 23, 2024 · 9:23 long. Summary written by Self Growth Videos from the episode itself. Business results and any income figures mentioned are Clark Kegley’s own claims, shared for education — they are not typical or guaranteed.

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