Letting Go is EASY with this 4-Step Technique (Life-Changing)

About this video

Kegley teaches letting go as releasing how long you carry worries and stories, opening with a professor holding a glass of water whose weight matters less than how long it is held. He uses an emotions scale he calls the Hawken scale, with shame, guilt, grief, fear and anger at the bottom and love, joy and peace at the top, and a hot air balloon held down by sandbags. He argues thoughts are like files stored in emotion folders, so one emotion triggers many related thoughts, and changing thoughts one by one is impractical. Drawing on David Hawkins’s book Letting Go and the Sedona Method, he gives four steps to practice for five to twenty minutes without distractions: become aware of the feeling without getting swept into its story, accept and sit with what you have been resisting instead of suppressing it, allow yourself to feel it fully, and release it by sitting with it until it runs its course, visualizing breathing in a blue teal light and exhaling a gray black cloud. He says detaching, in his own experience, coincided with improvements in his business, relationships, happiness and health.

Key takeaways

• Kegley teaches that suffering comes more from the duration you hold a burden than from the burden’s absolute weight at first.
• He traces a breakup through grief, fear, anger, pride, courage, willingness and acceptance to illustrate how people get stuck before reaching love, joy and peace.
• His method prioritizes working at the emotion level rather than replacing each negative thought, which he links to research suggesting over 60,000 thoughts a day.
• In step two, he reframes acceptance and surrender not as weakness but as running toward a feeling instead of suppressing it with drinking, screen time or avoidance.
• Practical tips he offers include journaling the exercise to slow racing thoughts, choosing one or two targets beforehand, and identifying what to let go of by asking what opposite feeling you want instead.

Episode details: published June 27, 2023 · 21:16 long. Summary written by Self Growth Videos from the episode itself. Business results and any income figures mentioned are Clark Kegley’s own claims, shared for education — they are not typical or guaranteed.

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