Letting Go will change your life SO FAST it feels ILLEGAL

About this video

Clark uses a heavy backpack as an analogy for psychological and emotional baggage accumulated through life, and argues that dropping that weight creates lightness and energy. He says most people try to change their thoughts to feel different, but it works the other way: emotions create thoughts, illustrated by thinking poorly after a stressful commute and tax season versus thinking optimistically on holiday after a bonus. Drawing on Dr. David Hawkins’s book ‘Letting Go,’ he presents a ranked chart of emotions: suffering at the bottom (shame, guilt, fear, anger), getting by in the middle (pride, courage, willingness, acceptance), and reason, peace, joy, and love at the top. The goal is not to only feel the highs, but to expand the full human experience and authentically acknowledge where you are without spiritual ranking or ego. He traces a bad breakup through shame, guilt, fear, anger, pride, courage, willingness, reason, peace, and eventually joy and love as an example of moving up the scale. He then gives a four-step technique: ask what am I feeling, sit with it briefly, ask can I allow this feeling instead of looping into problem-solving and replaying conversations, and ask could I let this go / would I let this go. He cites Blaise Pascal on the inability to sit alone in a room, and says allowing rather than resisting lets the feeling pass.

Key takeaways

• Clark argues emotions create thoughts more than thoughts create emotions, so change starts with emotional state, not forced positivity
• The Hawkins-inspired chart ranks shame, guilt, fear, and anger lowest, with pride, courage, willingness, and acceptance in the middle and reason, peace, joy, and love highest
• The goal is not to never feel low emotions, but to authentically acknowledge them and expand the full range of human experience
• The letting-go technique is: identify what you are feeling, sit with it, ask if you can allow it, then ask if you could and would let it go
• Resisting a feeling makes it persist; replaying conversations and trying to solve the feeling in your head tends to leave you more worked up

Episode details: published March 21, 2025 · 12:19 long. Summary written by Self Growth Videos from the episode itself. Business results and any income figures mentioned are Clark Kegley’s own claims, shared for education — they are not typical or guaranteed.

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