The BEST Relationship Advice (Get Them Addicted to YOU)

About this video

Clark shares three relationship lessons from over a decade in long-term relationships, noting he is not a relationship expert. First, relationships are not 50/50 but 100/100. He tells a story of a boy who trades all his marbles for a girl’s candy but keeps his favorite marble, then cannot sleep wondering if she also held back, to illustrate that holding back as self-protection becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and prevents a committed relationship from working. He says he recognized the same one-foot-in, one-foot-out pattern in his health, business, and savings in his early 20s, and that people will not suddenly change after commitment if they are not acting that way now. Second, drop your stories about exes. He recounts the ‘Nathan for You’ finale with 78-year-old Bill Gates impersonator Bill, who carried love letters from Francis for 50 years, tracked her down in Michigan, and learned she barely remembered him and was happily married with grandkids, showing the need to drop the fantasy story, not just get over the person. Third, stop looking for the right person and become the right person, arguing tens attract tens energetically and in lifestyle, and quoting Rumi that the task is to find barriers within yourself against love.

Key takeaways

• Committed relationships require 100/100 commitment, not 50/50; holding back marbles out of fear becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy
• If you or a partner are not showing up fully now, do not assume that will change after commitment
• Getting over an ex means dropping the fantasy story about them, illustrated by Bill’s 50-year fixation on Francis in ‘Nathan for You’
• Relationships only grow to the extent you do; become the right person rather than only searching for the right person
• Remove your own barriers to love, per the Rumi quote Clark cites, instead of trying to entertain or manipulate for approval

Episode details: published July 19, 2023 · 11:45 long. Summary written by Self Growth Videos from the episode itself. Business results and any income figures mentioned are Clark Kegley’s own claims, shared for education — they are not typical or guaranteed.

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