5 Tips To Build an Epic Marriage And Avoid Divorce

About this video

Dan Martell speaks personally about marriage, recounting that in his mid-20s a previous engagement fell apart about two months before the wedding when he was workaholic and selfish, prompting a multi-year journey of studying books, mentors, role models, and seminars on relationships. He says he and his wife Renee Warren have since been together for almost a decade, and shares five tips for an epic marriage. First, put your marriage first — even before the kids — arguing children want happy, connected parents and that divorce costs more than a missed business opportunity. Second, always be dating: take care of yourself, go on dates, ask questions, and keep making deposits into the marriage. Third, hold weekly family meetings — theirs is 30 minutes on Fridays before lunch — to plan, review goals and values, and give each other a 1-to-10 score as a partner with reasons, giving 52 chances a year to improve. Fourth, accept repair attempts: when a partner tries verbally or nonverbally to repair a fight, set ego aside and engage rather than pushing them away. Fifth, you do you: stop using your partner as an excuse not to succeed, focus on what you control, and stay consistent so results can speak.

Key takeaways

• Put your marriage first, before kids and business opportunities, to avoid drifting apart
• Always be dating your spouse: maintain effort, dates, questions, and small deposits into the relationship
• Hold a weekly 30-minute family meeting to plan, review goals and values, and exchange 1-to-10 partner feedback
• Accept repair attempts quickly after a fight instead of letting ego prolong it for days
• Stop blaming your partner for your lack of progress; control your own time, health, consistency, and results

Episode details: published January 25, 2021 · 13:18 long. Summary written by Self Growth Videos from the episode itself. Business results and any income figures mentioned are Dan Martell’s own claims, shared for education — they are not typical or guaranteed.

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