How To Raise Successful Kids To Be Winners

About this video

Dan Martell shares how he and his wife try to raise their two young boys - seven and eight at the time - to be winners, drawing on mentors including Todd Herman, Stu McLaren and Garrett Gunderson, and on books, experts and hard lessons rather than presenting himself as the originator. His starting fear as a wealthy entrepreneur was raising entitled children or not being present. Five strategies follow. One, the family name: repeatedly teach what it means to be a Martell - we do hard things, try, care for community and health - so identity shapes behaviour, praising effort as they grow into it. Two, let the world shape them: do not bubble-wrap them; since age three they have ordered haircuts and bought things at markets themselves, and a hard San Diego hike with Max became a lasting ‘Martells do hard things’ reference. Three, think of their kids: everything you model, including screaming or apologising and working out, will be mirrored to grandchildren, so break negative lineage now. Four, schedule family time: if it is not in the calendar it is not important - nightly dinners, date nights, monthly getaways, Sunday hikes and quarterly one-to-one ‘board meetings’ with each child. Five, prioritise connection, inspired by asking what you would do with only a week to live, leading to an annual week with each side of the family to teach and share deliberately.

Key takeaways

• Build identity through the family name: define and repeat what your surname means - values and behaviours children will grow into - and praise effort that matches it.
• Let the world shape children instead of protecting them from it: let them order, pay, hear no and face manageable adversity while you debrief the learning.
• Parent with their children in mind: the habits, tone and apologies you model today are what they are likely to repeat with your grandchildren.
• Schedule family time first in the calendar - dinners, getaways, hikes and quarterly one-to-one board meetings - or business will override it.
• Use the ‘one week to live’ test to prioritise connection now: plan the family week, teaching and stories you would want if time were short, rather than postponing it.

Episode details: published February 22, 2021 · 14:58 long. Summary written by Self Growth Videos from the episode itself. Business results and any income figures mentioned are Dan Martell’s own claims, shared for education — they are not typical or guaranteed.

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