Contracts of Love & Money That Make or Break Relationships | James Sexton

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Huberman speaks with family attorney James Sexton about how legal frameworks around relationships, especially prenuptial agreements, can deepen trust rather than undermine romance. Sexton argues that everyone already has a prenup, either one created by the state legislature or one tailored to the couple, and notes that the vast majority of people who do prenups stay married, yet most people opt not to. He frames intimacy and trust as the ability to be your true self with a partner, with vulnerability, a same-team spirit, respect and admiration. Walking through a mock prenup consultation, Sexton explains that understanding a contract starts with knowing your rights in its absence, then imagining what could go wrong, and he presses the prior question of why a couple is marrying at all, treating marriage as a solution whose problem should be named. Huberman frames the discussion as relevant whether someone is single, dating, engaged or married.

Key takeaways

• Sexton argues everyone has a prenup, either the state’s default or one tailored to the couple.
• Sexton says the vast majority of people who do prenups stay married, yet most opt not to.
• Sexton frames trust and intimacy as being your true self with a partner, with vulnerability and a same-team spirit.
• Sexton advises starting a prenup by understanding your rights in the absence of a contract.
• Sexton urges couples to ask why they are marrying and what problem marriage is meant to solve.

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