Why Venting Makes You & Others Feel Worse, Not Better

About this video

Dr. Ethan Kross explains that venting can strengthen bonds, because a listener’s empathy shows they have your back, but venting alone leaves the problem in place. He describes validation without a next step as co-rumination, which can be harmful. Kross says his advisors first validate and empathize, then help him broaden perspective and problem-solve, which usually leaves him in pretty good shape.

Key takeaways

• Dr. Kross says venting strengthens bonds but does not solve the problem.
• Dr. Kross describes validation without problem-solving as co-rumination, which can be harmful.
• Dr. Kross recommends validating and empathizing first, then broadening perspective and problem-solving.

Episode details: published December 2, 2024 · 67.9K views · 1:05 long. Summary written by Self Growth Videos from the episode itself. The science and protocols described are Andrew Huberman’s, presented for education — not medical advice. Consult a qualified professional before changing your own health practices.

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