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40 Harsh Truths I Know at 40 but Wish I Knew at 20

Wisdom Gained Through Experience: Life Lessons for the Younger Generation

By Mark Manson: Wisdom Gained Through Experience

Today is Mark’s 40th birthday, a significant milestone that brings with it a wealth of knowledge and insights. Reflecting on the past two decades, I realize there are numerous harsh truths I now understand that would have significantly impacted my life had I known them at 20. Here, I share these 40 lessons in the hope that they might guide and inspire those still navigating their younger years.

Quick Takeaways:

 
  1. Self-Respect and Relationships: Your relationship with others mirrors how you treat yourself. If you respect and treat yourself well, you’ll only tolerate others who do the same.

  2. Action Over Inaction: The only true failure is not trying. Taking risks and making attempts, even if they don’t succeed, is better than doing nothing.

  3. Personal Responsibility: Taking responsibility for your problems empowers you to solve them. Blaming others gives away your power and control over your life.

  4. Value of Time and Effort: The most valuable things in life, like health and relationships, compound over time. Start building them early for long-term benefits.

  5. Continuous Growth and Change: Growth often involves pain and loss. Embrace change and be willing to redefine yourself and your values as you evolve.

Here are the 40 Things Mark Learned:

 

Self-Respect and Relationships

1. Your Relationship with Others Reflects Your Relationship with Yourself
One of the most crucial lessons I’ve learned is that the way you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you. If you harbor self-respect and dignity, you will not tolerate anything less from those around you. Conversely, poor self-treatment often leads to accepting poor treatment from others.

2. Self-Respect is Earned, Not Given
To feel better about yourself, engage in actions that make you feel proud. Self-respect stems from doing things worth respecting.

Taking Action and Facing Failure

3. The Only Failure Is Not Trying
Life’s true failure lies in inaction. Risking rejection and taking chances are integral parts of growth and success. Success and failure are subjective concepts that only exist before you take action. Once you do, everything becomes a blend of both, making inaction the only real mistake.

4. No One Is Coming to Save You
You are responsible for your own happiness and well-being. No goal, relationship, or achievement can fix all your problems. Feeling mildly inadequate and dissatisfied is normal, and nothing is inherently wrong with you for feeling this way.

Becoming the Person You Want to Be

5. Be the Partner You Want to Have
If you desire a healthy, loyal, and trustworthy partner, embody these qualities yourself. Reflect on whether you would date yourself and make necessary changes.

6. The Most Valuable Things in Life Compound Slowly
Health, wealth, knowledge, confidence, and relationships require consistent effort over a long period. Starting to build these aspects early and persistently will lead to a fulfilling life in your later years.

Managing Distractions and Focus

7. The Most Exciting Things Have Diminishing Returns
Activities like social media, casual sex, and video games may start off fun but often lead to diminishing satisfaction. Focus on long-term investments in your well-being.

8. Focus on What Matters
Our world is full of distractions. If you’re not turning down exciting opportunities, you may not be prioritizing what truly matters to you.

Taking Responsibility and Empowerment

9. Responsibility Alleviates Suffering
Taking responsibility for your problems empowers you to solve them. It reduces suffering by giving you control over your life.

10. You Give Power to Who You Blame
Blaming others for your problems gives them control over your happiness. Retain your power by taking responsibility.

Authenticity and True Confidence

11. If You Have to Tell Someone You’re That, You’re Not
True confidence, wealth, and intelligence don’t need to be announced. Be it rather than say it.

12. Motivation Follows Action
Taking even small actions can create momentum and motivation. Don’t wait for motivation to start.

Commitment and Passion

13. Love Is the Effect of Commitment
A perfect relationship doesn’t lead to commitment; commitment leads to a strong relationship.

14. Passion Follows Competency
Passion often develops from becoming good at something, not the other way around.

Relationships and Sacrifices

15. Everything Worthwhile Comes with Sacrifice
Every good thing in life involves some sacrifice, whether it’s the partner you choose, the house you buy, or the job you take.

16. A Happy Life Is a Life of Meaningful Stress
Stress is inevitable, but it can be meaningful if it stems from pursuing worthwhile goals.

Exercise and Health

17. View Exercise as an Investment
Exercise isn’t just a way to lose weight; it’s an investment in long-term energy and well-being.

18. Meditation Makes Life Easier
Meditation has scientifically validated benefits like reducing stress and improving focus. It’s a simple practice that can enhance your life significantly.

Trust and Problems

19. Trust People; Most Are Good
Trusting others can sometimes lead to hurt, but the alternative of not trusting anyone is far worse.

20. Life Is Full of Problems
Everyone has problems, from Warren Buffett to a homeless person. Problems don’t disappear; they just evolve as you grow.

Growth and Change

21. Growth Is Often Painful
Growth involves loss and change, which can be painful. Allow yourself to grieve as you evolve.

22. Embrace Being Different
Normal is often unhealthy and unhappy. Strive to be better than normal.

Identity and Boundaries

23. Learn to Say No
Your yeses mean nothing if you can’t say no. Set boundaries to define your identity and values.

24. Define Yourself Loosely
Rigid self-definitions are limiting. Be flexible and willing to change when necessary.

Assumptions and Self-Perception

25. Avoid Making Assumptions
You never truly know what others have been through, and you’re often the least objective about yourself.

26. People Don’t Think About You as Much as You Think They Do
Most people are too focused on themselves to notice your insecurities. This realization is liberating.

Confidence and Acceptance

27. Confidence Comes from Comfort with Failure
Confidence isn’t about expecting success but being comfortable with the possibility of failure.

28. Be Willing to Be Disliked
Accept that not everyone will like you. This grants the freedom to do what’s necessary and right for you.

Flossing and Sunscreen

29. Floss and Wear Sunscreen Every Day
Small daily habits like flossing and wearing sunscreen have significant long-term benefits.

Achieving Extraordinary Results

30. Extraordinary Results Come from Ordinary Actions Over Time
Success often comes from consistently doing ordinary actions over a long period, not from sudden big moves.

Choosing the Right Partner

31. Choosing a Partner Is About More Than Romance
Your partner will be many things to you: confidant, advisor, friend. Choose wisely.

Love and Relationships

32. Love Amplifies Relationships
Love can enhance a good relationship but won’t fix underlying issues. It can also worsen a bad relationship.

33. Trust Is the Foundation of All Relationships
Honesty and integrity are crucial for building and maintaining trust in relationships.

Emotions and Responses

34. You’re the Common Denominator in Your Relationships
If all your relationships have the same problems, you might be the problem.

35. No Emotion Is Bad; Only Responses Are
Emotions can be used constructively or destructively. Learn to channel them positively.

Lifestyle Choices

36. Mornings Are the Real Deal
Waking up early and having a productive morning routine can significantly improve your life.

Self-Validation

37. You Don’t Have to Prove Anything to Anyone
You don’t need to prove your worth to others or even to yourself. Accept who you are.

Life Advice

38. Life Advice Is Like Clothing
Not all advice will fit you. Discard what doesn’t work and keep what does.

Meaningful Struggles

39. Meaningful Things Are Never Easy
We value and enjoy things more when we’ve struggled for them. Seek out and embrace challenges.

Never Too Late to Change

40. It’s Never Too Late to Start Something New
You can always learn and grow, regardless of age. It’s never too late to start anew and pursue your passions.

Conclusion: The Journey of Life

Life is a continuous journey of learning and evolving. These 40 harsh truths have shaped who I am today and have given me a deeper understanding of what it means to live a meaningful and fulfilling life. To the younger generation, take these lessons to heart and allow them to guide you through your own journey. Remember, it’s never too late to change, grow, and start anew.